Dating website for short men
Check out this equation: Dating Short Men = Uphill Battle. I haven’t conducted a study of my own on the subject, but I can assure you that scores of women of every type will say they simply aren’t attracted to short men.
Decoded, this equation refers to the tough time many short men have trying to find a romantic partner because some women won’t date someone shorter than they are. If you push them, they will hedge a bit: “I don’t know why, I’m just not.” As a psychologist, it’s not my job or place to be mean-spirited or hurtfully blunt, but it is my job to tell it like it is in reality.
“Swipe left if you’re under 6 foot” “Tall guys only!
” “I would date you, but you’re just too short.” Almost all shorter men (around 5’9″ and below) have heard similar phrases, or seen them online. I have had success in dating and relationships (yes, even Tinder) and I’m going to share my tips.
The only way short guys survive is by knowing that we live longer and can weave through Costco aisles faster than our taller, wealthier, calmer, happier and more powerful, popular, employable, educated and sexually active counterparts. which we use to barter extra tater tots at school lunch.
Shortness is great when we are four years old and get to hold the plaque in our soccer team photo. Grade school teachers find our smallness endearing and award us extra stickers and desired parts in class plays.
Men and women both fall prey to the (remarkably persistent) myth that sexual attraction works on auto-pilot, as if we are all preprogrammed to be attracted to the ones who captivate our attention. The type of person you’re attracted to depends largely on your beliefs. My client, Alexis, comes from the most machismo family I can imagine, full of firefighters, Marines, and gobs of Old Spice. In Alexis’ family, she was the only daughter and the men in her family were brawny and tough.
And when every other kid on the field piles on the ball, short boys wait for it to pop out and score a goal on the opponent's or our own net. Girls, who are often taller than boys until middle school, also find us cute -- although, since our height-valued culture makes us feel insecure, we pretend not to look when our crush lets us sneak a peek at her underwear.
In baseball, pitchers can't come close to our smaller strike zone so our on-base percentage exceeds 1.000. Middle school bullies assume we are brainiacs and threaten to beat us up unless we provide our homework to copy, and then actually beat us up after receiving their unsatisfactory grades.
Older girls at school dances bully us by spinning us in the air like helicopters. We play tennis in high school because the soccer scrum and mini strike zone no longer apply.
We become the lucky charm at sporting events which is like an acceptable form of bullying.