Dating customs in america
However, an extra layer, what we call "dating," has been added to the process of courting.If you are familiar with computer programming terminology, you can liken dating to a sub-routine that has been added to the system of courtship.The French, incidentally, don’t linguistically fob off their slobberier makeouts as an import.
Colonial society came up with a fairly ingenious solution. Which makes modern parents look pretty lame by comparison. Not necessarily while bundling, but behind the barn, in the meadow, during the corn shuck fest.For social scientists, studies of courtship usually look at the process of "mate selection." (Social scientists, among whom I number myself from time to time, will never be accused of being romantics.) For the purpose of this article the , prior to the early 20th century, courtship involved one man and one woman spending intentional time together to get to know each other with the expressed purpose of evaluating the other as a potential husband or wife.The man and the woman usually were members of the same community, and the courting usually was done in the woman's home in the presence (and under the watchful eye) of her family, most often Mom and brothers.NIGERIA“I’m sometimes taken aback by the hook-up culture here and how people are able to be intimate with people they just met 2 seconds ago. In Nigeria, when you would get hit on, mostly a guy would come up to you and say he wanted to be your friend, not like ‘I think you’re pretty, let’s go out.’ Guys do walk up to you in Nigeria but they try to hide their motives.“In Nigeria, many types of men can be possessive (mostly the ones raised with no form of outside influence) and feel like they should have a say in your life.I didn’t think that was a thing here until someone I guess I was ‘minorly’ flirting with thought it was okay to grab me and tell me to walk with him instead of my friends.“The whole friends with benefits thing isn’t really popular but people do it on the down low in Nigeria.